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“I am not the only one to benefit from this break from alcohol” – Daphne Robberechts

  • Writer: OYNB
    OYNB
  • Nov 17, 2025
  • 3 min read
A smiling adult and child outdoors. Text reads: "28th July 2020. I am not the only one to benefit from this break from alcohol. Daphne Robberechts."


“OYNB is so much more than coaching or tips & tricks to drink less. It is a movement, a community.”


I used to drink 2–4 glasses of red wine every evening. Not in the morning. Not “out of control”. Just… every night after work. A reward. A way to relax. A background constant.

On the surface it didn’t look dramatic. I could still:


  • Work

  • Run

  • Play tennisSo it had to be fine, right?


Deep down, I knew it wasn’t. I was waking up every morning with a low-grade hangover and a foggy head. That is not how I wanted to start my day.


When “just a few glasses” start to matter

I tried to quit many times.

Each attempt looked similar:


  • Decide this is it, I’m done

  • Stop for a short period

  • Slide back to 2–4 glasses of wine every evening


The pattern that worried me most wasn’t the amount. It was this:

I found it hard to abstain for even one day.

That lack of control nagged at me. I didn’t want my life defined by a bottle that quietly dictated how every evening felt and how every morning started.





Discovering OYNB


One day an OYNB ad appeared in my Facebook feed.

I clicked, watched Ruari and Andy’s videos, and felt something I hadn’t felt around alcohol in a long time: hope.

I didn’t know exactly what to expect. What I did know was this:


  • I hadn’t been able to take a real break on my own

  • I needed structure, education, and encouragement

  • I wanted to see if I could actually stay alcohol-free for a full year


So I signed up.


What I learned about alcohol (and about myself)


Through OYNB, something clicked:



Alcohol doesn’t add anything to life. No moment becomes more loving, more meaningful, or more “special” because alcohol is in your body.

That realisation changed everything.

Without the nightly wine:


  • Mornings transformed – early breakfasts on the terrace, clear-headed and present

  • Time with my children became richer – I was really there, not just half-tired and uneasy

  • Stress and private challenges were easier to handle – because I wasn’t constantly recovering from the night before


I also discovered something I hadn’t fully appreciated in myself:

My own strength and resilience.

Life didn’t suddenly become easy. But I could face it, fully present, instead of numbing and postponing my feelings with a glass of red.


The benefits I didn’t expect


Yes, some of the changes were visible:


  • I lost a bit of weight

  • My skin looked better


But the most valuable shift was internal:


  • My appetite for life came back

  • My hope for the future grew stronger

  • I became a more present and patient mum, daughter, and friend


It wasn’t just my win either:

Staying alcohol-free is a gift to the people around me.They now get the real, fully-present version of me.

From “failing” at 60 days to 365 and beyond


I originally signed up for 90 days.

Twice, I made it to around Day 60 and slipped.

At first, I saw that as failure.Then I realised: if I can repeatedly get to 60 days, I clearly can go much further.

So I reset my thinking:


  • If 60 days is possible…

  • Why not dream bigger and aim for 365?


This time I went all in:


  • I signed up for the 365-day challenge

  • I checked the Facebook group daily

  • I read the “quit lit” recommended by other members

  • I followed the daily videos and emails from OYNB


That combination changed everything. And this time, I reached 365 days alcohol-free.


Why I stayed for a second year


Reaching one year didn’t feel like crossing a finish line. It felt like stepping into the kind of life I’d been trying to reach for years.

So I made a new decision:

If my life is this much better without alcohol for one year,why not stay alcohol-free for a second year?

I chose to keep going.


More than “tips to drink less”

“OYNB is so much more than coaching or tips & tricks to drink less. It is a movement, a community.”

That’s been my experience.

OYNB has given me:


  • Tools, not just motivation

  • Education, not just willpower

  • A global community of people who get it

  • And, unexpectedly, friends across the world – some of whom I’ve even met in person


Early-morning coffees on the terrace, real presence with my kids, a stronger sense of who I am and where I’m going… none of that came from a glass of wine.

It came from choosing to step away from alcohol – and stepping into a community that helped me stay there.

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